How many times have you decided that this is going to be THE direct sales program you reach the top of the pay scale in? How many times have you started a diet, a new way of thinking, or tried something new and then a setback occurs and you just go back to the way you were?

Don't worry, you are not the only one! I have experienced many "setbacks" in my business life and in my personal life over the years, the diffference is how I deal with them now. Setbacks and difficulties occur all the time- they are a natural activity of life.  The good news is you CAN FIGHT BACK!

There are two ways of facing difficulties.

You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it.

Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your onfidence. Deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.

"So what's a sista to do?"

When you are faced with any setback your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself some "real" empowering questions. The kind of question you ask yourself does matter..consider this:

There is an unwritten rule that says "Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!

So, if after your setback you ask yourself something like "Why do I always quit before I can really see a positive result in my business?"

Your mind will probably come out with: "Because you are useless, you can't do this and this business "sucks" anyway!"

Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:

"What did I learn from this setback for the next time?" "What do I need to do different so I can get positive results..faster next time?"

Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.

Here are a few rules and things to think about the next time you feel you are experiencing a setback:

  • Acknowledge that it happened. Don't hide from it. These things happen. So what?
  • What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?
  • What is GOOD about this situation?
  • How can I make the most of this situation?
  • What can I learn from it?
  • What are the facts about this problem?
  • How can we make it a successful outcome?

View all difficulties you go through as a challenge rather than an issue or a problem.

Ackowledge that setbacks occur to EVERYONE! There is not a black woman alive that has not experienced some kind of setback in her life. The TOP million dollar mavens in direct sales ALL will tell you they have experienced what they felt was a setback at some point while building their businesses. Many changed companies several times before they found their "home" and built a multi-million dollar business. The point is you must learn from every situation and setback, ask yourself empowering questions and LEARN FROM it!!

Get through those setbacks girl! The only way you win is to never give up...learn from everything you experience, it's ALL good!! FIGHT BACK against negative thoughts..now!

To your success,

British