For most of my life, all the way up until a few years ago, I inadvertently put focus on the things I did not want.  For example, I would say in conversations with co-workers, "I don't want to work overtime tomorrow", "I don't like our new boss". To my son, "I don't want you to be late for school", or "I don't want you to leave any food on your plate". I was really bad when it came to money, "I don't want to be broke anymore", "I don't want to spend too much money while I'm on vacation".

In our daily conversations and in our thoughts, many black women have a habit of focusing on what we don't want instead of putting the focus on what we DO WANT. Can you relate to this, can you see that for yourself? How many times have you said as it pertains to you direct sales business, "I don't want to sponsor anymore people that quit right away, or " I don't want to go another year without making real money in my business".

Here's what happens when we focus on what we don't want in our words and thoughts:

WE ATTRACT MORE OF WHAT WE DON'T WANT BY FOCUSING ON IT AND GIVING IT ATTENTION!

It is important to know that our brain doesn't register the "don't" in the sentence. So if you say, "I don't want my prospect to cancel our appointment" your brain registers "cancel"! I learned this awhile ago from Michael Losier, the author of The Law Of Attraction. So always remember that focusing on what you don't want and using that word "don't" attracts and gives you more of exactly what you don't want. Instead, change your mindset and the way you word it. Every time you catch yourself saying "don't want" or "don't like", replace it with: "So what DO I want?"

For example, if you say "I don't want to be broke anymore" replace it with  " I want more money in my life". You can do the same thing when you are giving instructions to your children, employees, downline or even your spouse. Telling your kids "Don't run in the house" makes them run even more. Telling them "Don't talk so loud" makes them talk or scream even louder. Once you get really aware of this, you will be blown away at how many things you read and see in the world around you that are focused on what you can't do and what they DON'T WANT you to do. For instance, "Don't use this door" or "Don't park here". A more effective way would be to say "Use the other door" or "Park in rear only". Tell your children "walk slowly in the house" or "Keep your voice down, please". Instead of saying "I don't have anyone else to share my business opportunity with" try saying " I will meet new people to share my business with". By changing the way you say it, you are focusing on what you DO want, and you will attract just that into of your life!

Try it out in your life, believe me..it matters!

To your success,

British

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