For many black women in MLM, getting our love partners to share in our excitement and commitment to build a network marketing business can be very tough, especially in the beginning. I remember a close friend of mine and successful network marketer shared the story of how her otherwise very supportive husband reacted when she began her direct selling career ten years ago, he had two things to say, "THOSE things NEVER work, don't do it", and "You will quit before your make the $100 it took to join". YUCK! I'm sure his words felt terrible as she embarked on what she considered her last chance to make a positive financial change for the family. But, despite his harsh words and nasty looks, she hit the ground running with her business, never looking back. Well, today ten years later with over 6000 consultants in her downline, she is one of the highest paid African American women in network marketing. Now, her husband says things like, "Honey, I am so proud of you" and "Baby, where do you want to go on vacation THIS month?" Today, my friend and I laugh about her early days in network marketing, I learn a lot from her, especially on how to gain the most support from my husband. Here are 5 tips that helped me involve my husband when I began my career with Seriesse.

5 ways to make your love partner support and share in your network marketing business...right from the start!!!

1. INVOLVE HIM RIGHT AWAY

My friend attributes her husband's change of attitude not only to the steady increase on her commission checks, but also because she "shared" her business with him along the way. When you share your thought processes and plans for your business with your partner, it involves him. Men like to be "in the know" about what their spouse is doing. Even if your partner is not really interested, it will have a positive effect. It also lets him know you are serious about your network marketing business and that you are not giving up until you reach your goal. When you involve him in the process and keep him informed, your partner will see that you are on track.

2. COMMUNICATE YOUR GOALS

My husband and I always share our business and family goals. When you do this with your spouse, you will identify the common goals you have together. For example, Share with him your why or reason for starting a network marketing business. Was it because you wanted to spend more time at home with the children; you no longer enjoy your job; you want to finally get paid what you are worth? Once you are clear about why you are in network marketing, be sure to share that with your spouse. I know several black women in network marketing that started their businesses because they wanted to "free their husbands" from the rat race of corporate America. Whatever your reason, it's important to share that with your man...right from the start. Encourage him to share his goals with you. Your goals will become part of his plan, and his goals will become part of yours. You will both work hard and support the other until your dreams come true.

3. BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTAND WITH HIM

Most men are "wired" to get a job and make money, right away! Men are natural providers and it is often difficult for them to understand the "belief and faith" factor involved in building a network marketing business. Remember that the "big bucks" and huge success will not happen right away, it takes time to build your business and income. Consistency and "giving it enough time" is very important to remember as you grow your business. Although you may want to give 200% of your time to the business, do not neglect your family along the way. By all means, take the time necessary to build your business, but spend quality time with your man and your family as well. You may find that your husband will feel "left out" as your commitment and passion grows. If your husband voices concerns in this area, respect his feelings and make adjustments. Being patient with your husband and understanding that, although he may support your business goals, he doesn't want to lose his wife along the way. Your husband may not fully support or understand in the beginning; however, if you are patient and strive to understand his prospective, you both will be happier along the way.

4. DON'T FORGET TO CELEBRATE TOGETHER

It is so important to celebrate each other whenever a milestone is reached or even a small success is accomplished. Attach a specific celebration to every accomplished goal. Consider a romantic dinner for two; a night out on the town; a day at home together doing absolutely nothing, enjoying a bottle of wine or champagne. Tell your spouse the dinner for two will be YOUR treat once you accomplish a specific goal. Most men will support your goals when they realize they will enjoy the "celebration" and accomplishment as well. 

5. THANK YOUR PARTNER FOR HIS SUPPORT AND UNDERSTANDING

Remember, even though you may have faith and be very excited about the future success of your network marketing business, your man may not "get it" yet. Although you may not think he is watching, he is probably paying close attention to what you do with your business and how serious you appear. As you work your business, be sure to thank you partner for his understanding and support. Acknowledge that it may be difficult for him to understand right now and tell him you appreciate his support. This will make a world of difference and your man will appreciate you for it!

Stay focused on your business goals and involve your partner from the start....this will make the "journey" easier and your success that much sweeter!! 

See you at the TOP!! 

British